Occasionally Nice Guys Finish First
We all live in a world of insecure, self-interested, guised human beings who treat us differently based on whether we act nice, mean, tactful or tactless. So, how does one act in order to be most successful with people? How can you make like them you as much as they like Sally Fields?
The answer: occasionally nice guys finish first. Please don’t confuse this with: occasionally, nice guys finish first (I’m an adept comma user). No, nice guys finish last for several reasons, but people that are mean all the time also fail. The real trick is to be occasionally nice, but a complete dick most of the time. Why is this successful?
-Insecurity
People, for the most part, are insecure. They seek out affirmation from others in order to feel worth. If one is mean to them in a real way or in a teasing way, they wonder “what did I do wrong?” and they try to act nicer in order to compensate. Now with the many people, one can keep treating them like crap and they will keep taking it. With most, though, there is a breaking point in which they say “fuck it, he’s just a dick”. One has to ease off before that breaking point and occasionally act nice. This will give your victim a feeling of accomplishment and will continue to engage them. Why not just act nice all the time? Because that will spoil people. If people do not have to earn one’s kindness, they wont bother. Why buy the cow?
-Empathy
People, for the most part, are self-interested dicks. When they choose friends, they usually do not want someone who is nice to them. Instead, they want someone who they can relate to; they want a peer with a similar perspective that can give them real advice on how to navigate through life. Nice people suck at advice and they have bad senses of humor because they do not really understand human relations. Why not act mean all the time? Well, then you will attract only other dicks and they are annoying.
The “Real You”
People, for the most part, put up a front. Many people try to act nice all the time. Still, eventually, they are going to fail and occasionally act mean. Disproportionate attention is give to these small moments and people assume the guard has been let down exposing the “real you”. Frightened, people flee. Now, if one does the reverse and acts mean all the time, eventually, you are going to fail and occasionally act nice. Again, disproportionate attention will be given to these small moments and people will assume the guard has been let down exposing the “real you”. Rather than being frightened, they will be endeared.
The answer: occasionally nice guys finish first. Please don’t confuse this with: occasionally, nice guys finish first (I’m an adept comma user). No, nice guys finish last for several reasons, but people that are mean all the time also fail. The real trick is to be occasionally nice, but a complete dick most of the time. Why is this successful?
-Insecurity
People, for the most part, are insecure. They seek out affirmation from others in order to feel worth. If one is mean to them in a real way or in a teasing way, they wonder “what did I do wrong?” and they try to act nicer in order to compensate. Now with the many people, one can keep treating them like crap and they will keep taking it. With most, though, there is a breaking point in which they say “fuck it, he’s just a dick”. One has to ease off before that breaking point and occasionally act nice. This will give your victim a feeling of accomplishment and will continue to engage them. Why not just act nice all the time? Because that will spoil people. If people do not have to earn one’s kindness, they wont bother. Why buy the cow?
-Empathy
People, for the most part, are self-interested dicks. When they choose friends, they usually do not want someone who is nice to them. Instead, they want someone who they can relate to; they want a peer with a similar perspective that can give them real advice on how to navigate through life. Nice people suck at advice and they have bad senses of humor because they do not really understand human relations. Why not act mean all the time? Well, then you will attract only other dicks and they are annoying.
The “Real You”
People, for the most part, put up a front. Many people try to act nice all the time. Still, eventually, they are going to fail and occasionally act mean. Disproportionate attention is give to these small moments and people assume the guard has been let down exposing the “real you”. Frightened, people flee. Now, if one does the reverse and acts mean all the time, eventually, you are going to fail and occasionally act nice. Again, disproportionate attention will be given to these small moments and people will assume the guard has been let down exposing the “real you”. Rather than being frightened, they will be endeared.
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